The Little Things
I was reminded yesterday that it is the little things that we do, that makes for wonderful memories and a sense of happiness. The fact that I am always here for my daughters and all the things that I do for them, I hope that it will give them a sense of a happy and stable childhood even though they don’t have their mother and father living together.
I go to their library once a week, Tuesday afternoons for the older and Friday before lunch for the younger. I go on field trips, I help with reading in my older daughter’s classroom and I’m the room mother for my youngest. I pick up the oldest every day instead of having her take the bus, to give us an extra 50 minutes a day together, the youngest has only half day and her bus home takes only 5 minutes. They both love it when I come to school and ask every morning if I’m coming in. I know that I’m very fortunate to be able to do these things even after my divorce and I dread the day when I have to go back to work because of it.
At home we do crafts, homework, read lots of books, garden, bake, play board games/card games, play outside, and so much more.
So I think I can let up on the mommy guilt, I’m doing a lot for my children and I know that the fact that I’ve been able to keep their routine mostly the same is one of the reasons that they’ve been able to handle this divorce so well. I think/hope that they will look back on their childhood and realize that I did the best I could, like all parents.
I think the main reason I was getting upset was that they came home after yet another action packed weekend with their dad. But I have to keep reminding myself, those things are not what matters most, it’s the day-to-day that makes life better for children.