Here We Go Again
So before our trip, things blew up with my ex regarding parenting time for the future, you can read more about it here. So after we came back I sent an e-mail on Monday July 22 asking when he would be available for mediation so that I can set it up. No answer. Monday August 5 I send another e-mail asking if he wants to do mediation for the Fall or if we should stick to the original separation agreement. No answer. Yesterday, Tuesday August 6, I send yet another e-mail, making sure that he understands that school starts in 3 weeks and we have to decide what we are doing.
Last night I get a response:
“Have been busy, leaving tomorrow… maybe we can try to talk this out and see how far we get?
Overall – I want more time with the girls and a more equal sharing of their time. I understand that this coming year it would be difficult to impossible to share 50/50, and that the week night stays would be tough for them. It leaves weekends, but it is also very hard for me emotionally (and the girls too, I think) to be without them for 10-12 days. Maybe we can come up with a good solution.
But if we are both working, then maybe this year they go to school in xxx and next year in yyy– trade places. They are both good school systems, and the school in yyy is literally around the corner.
On daycare – I’m not ok with paying money for daycare unless it’s tied to both of us working. It’s an increased expense for me, without any value or benefit. I would like to understand what your plans are.”
So basically this is back to exactly the conversation we were having in the Spring. He wants more parenting time, but doesn’t want it during the weeks. I’m sure that his first suggestion will again be that he wants 4 out of 5 weekends, while I go back to work full-time and take all the hard days.
My response was only:
“I’m OK with talking this out on one condition, that when we’ve come to an agreement we go to a mediator/lawyer and have it written up and submitted to court. Or we write it up and submit ourselves if you think that is possible.
Do you agree to that?”
I’m not going to go through the motions again just to have him blow up over something and take it all back.
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