It’s been a little scary lately, my ex has been very nice and agreeable. If it was any other person I would be thrilled, but it makes me wonder what is he planning? What is his agenda?
One example, he’s let me drop the girls off at his office instead of his new house, saving me 1 h 10 min driving time. 1.5 months ago he was trying to come up with any excuse for me to have to drive to his house. That one can potentially be explained with that the last time I had to drive down to his house, his girlfriend was home and he hadn’t made it home yet. I’m sure she asked him after, why is your ex-wife driving all the way down here when she passes your office and that would be so much easier for her. Maybe that is why, he might try to keep up appearances for her, try to convince her that he is a nice guy. To be honest, that works in my favor.
No matter what the reason is, it’s been very calm here.
I’m still dating the man, S, that I met right before my Sweden trip. Things have been going well, I have a few reservations but I don’t know if I’m overreacting since I’m not really wanting to serious of a relationship or if they are red flags warning me that I should end it. One of the big ones is that he still is very involved with his ex because of them having 9 dogs together. Yes you read that right, 9! There is an explanation, not a great one in my opinion but an explanation, she is a vet and kept taking on more dogs. Still, that is a lot. He helps pay for their care but also takes care of them a lot. The days that she works, he works from home, their old home, where she and the dogs still live. Every Saturday and Sunday morning he takes them out to the dog park, a 3-4 hour deal. If she wants to spend the weekend away or the night away with friends or her boyfriend, he has to go take care of the dogs every 4 hours and he then also sleeps at her house. It is starting to bother me.
Another big one is money. He has a good job but claims to have no savings, only debt. He says that his ex-wife was very expensive… And yes, divorce is expensive too, it does drain money. But a 42-year-old man with a good job that only has a 401k no other savings is scary to me. I could never live like that. I’ve always been a saver.
I know I’m making him sound like a really bad match and I don’t mean to. What I like about him is that he is extremely nice and good to me. The sex is amazing. He compliments me, he cooks for me, he takes me out, he is fit, he is sweet, he is not afraid to show affection privately or in public, he takes care of me when I’m sick. So am I overreacting about my concerns, I don’t know. But it makes me hold back a little.